No one tells you how hard it is to hold love and pain in the same hand.Not one, then the other. Both. Always. When your child dies, the world splits in two:The life you had, and the one you’re left with.And in this new life, everything beautiful feels wrapped in something sharp. At 3.5 years, […]
I’m an analyst by trade.Data made sense.Systems, patterns, logic—I could track them, explain them, fix them. But losing my only child shattered all of that.There’s no graph for that kind of pain.No formula for how to keep breathing when your entire world ends. And yet, even in that collapse, I did what I always do—I
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Grief One Day at a Time by Dr. Alan WolfeltA daily companion for grieving hearts — short reflections that meet you exactly where you are. How to Live When a Loved One Dies by Thich Nhat HanhGentle, grounding wisdom from one of the great teachers of peace and mindfulness. When You’re Ready, This Is How
Some days, I get these flashes—of who I might be now. Not who I was before the loss, not the hollow version that came after, but someone else entirely. It’s not solid. It’s not permanent. But in those rare, clear moments, I see a shape forming. I don’t have answers. I still wake up tired,
Mother’s Day hits differently when you’ve lost a child. I know it does for me. My son’s absence is a quiet ache that flares up today—his curious questions, his laugh, the way he loved his pillow fresh from the wash. Grief ebbs and flows: some moments, I smile at his memory; others, the loss feels
Grief isn’t just an emotional experience; it’s a full-body event that significantly impacts our brain’s functioning. Dr. O’Connor explains that when we lose someone deeply connected to us, our brain undergoes a complex process of relearning and adaptation. The Brain’s Struggle with LossOur brains are wired to form strong bonds with loved ones, creating neural
Grief Redraws the Map Grief doesn’t just break your heart.It breaks your sense of what was solid—especially in relationships. The People You Thought Would Stay… Don’t Always Some vanish quietly.Some disappear while sitting right next to you.Some say “move on” because your pain makes them uncomfortable. It hurts like hell. A second loss.One you never
Forget every movie montage you’ve ever seen. Purpose doesn’t roar in like a triumphant battle cry. It whispers. It shows up in small, almost invisible moments: Saying yes to a new project, even when you’re terrified. Laughing at something stupid, and realizing for a second that you felt… alive. Showing up for someone else who’s
Let’s be real: rebuilding is a huge thought. It feels overwhelming when getting through each moment already feels like carrying the world on your back. You don’t just “decide” you’re ready. You don’t “wake up inspired” one morning. You inch toward readiness. Moment by moment. Sometimes, just admitting that you’re not ready yet — that